tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1000326625965122367.post3952369423222087233..comments2024-03-08T17:14:17.994-05:00Comments on Pray For Lilly: Ways to include your angel child in the Christmas seasonLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06306217651417023803noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1000326625965122367.post-41138655951044084802014-12-29T06:36:55.868-05:002014-12-29T06:36:55.868-05:00Well it does sound like it is "normal" f...Well it does sound like it is "normal" for people not to say anything. I just don't understand that, as I have always told people I was sorry about their loss. It is a REAL BABY. Someone I know said one Christian friend told her it was "just a mass of cells." Perhaps if pictures of tiny month old babies were circulated more, people could "get it." But, perhaps it is also - what I've found with Lilly's life and death - death makes people very uncomfortable and they would rather not say anything about it. That makes me want to cry for you thinking about that scene at Target. Ouch. When was your baby due?Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06306217651417023803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1000326625965122367.post-21109083118697906862014-12-27T22:26:31.815-05:002014-12-27T22:26:31.815-05:00I think early miscarriage is something people who ...I think early miscarriage is something people who haven't gone through it have a very hard time understanding. It doesn't feel very fair to me, but practically everyone else in my family seems to think it's perfectly okay to let my baby pass without a single word while gushing over and buying things for my niece who is due in May. My mom even showed me an outfit she was thinking of getting her when we were at Target 3 days after I'd passed what was left. (My baby had died long before and only the sac was visible on ultrasound.) They just don't get it that these are babies that we lost and their existence deserves to be acknowledged and remembered.MelanieBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05137796165695937464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1000326625965122367.post-12898124901848032822014-12-24T20:41:02.383-05:002014-12-24T20:41:02.383-05:00Oh I am SO sorry to hear about your miscarriage! ...Oh I am SO sorry to hear about your miscarriage! I did buy my baby an ornament this year. I named my baby "Blueberry" and so I bought a little ornament with a bear with a bucket of blueberries. (There's a picture a few posts back.) I debated about putting Blueberry's name on the card, but it feels weird because we have a number of relatives that know about it but have not said a thing to us. Honestly I feel rather confused about how to handle it all. I need to get it worked out in my mind. Because I surely don't feel Blueberry is any less important than Lilly, even though I never got to see that baby. I'd love to hear what you end up doing. And you are right about doing something on the due date too.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06306217651417023803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1000326625965122367.post-64621113317402787592014-12-24T20:00:41.663-05:002014-12-24T20:00:41.663-05:00Are you doing anything for your newest angel baby ...Are you doing anything for your newest angel baby this year? I'm in the midst of a miscarriage, and while it's too fresh to buy anything for the tree this year I like the idea of getting a themed ornament every year. I would really like to skip December this year too, but next year I will be looking for ways to remember the baby I never even got to see, both on my due date and at Christmas. Thank you for sharing the list!MelanieBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05137796165695937464noreply@blogger.com