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The story of our precious little girl's 17 months of life with Trisomy 18 (July 4, 2010 - December 15, 2011) and of us, re-learning to live "after Lilly."
"I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made ...." Psalm 139:14

Thursday, March 29, 2012

A Change in Perspective

The other night, I saw this picture on a post by Caleb's mom. The words struck me:

The sky never looked so beautiful until Heaven took you.

Ever since Lilly died I've felt like the sky has dimmed. The sun was no longer as bright. Even though I see all the beauty of spring outside, it's not the same.

However, yesterday I kept thinking of the words on this picture. I used it to begin to transform my thinking. Now my eyes are so often drawn to the sky and I think "How beautiful! My Lilly is up there smiling!" Thank you God!

In thinking about how just a few words could help me change how I felt, I was reminded of the part of 2 Corinthians 10:5 where we are urged to "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." There is freedom and power in being able to do that. Not that it's always easy!

Today I skimmed a short e-book that I saw linked in a post in a Trisomy Angels group. It is written by a mom of a baby named Cora that lived for five days. (She had a heart defect and her death was a surprise.) The e-book is called "When A Friend's Baby Dies." (Click the title for a direct link. Here is the homepage of the website: ) I thought the author had a lot of very useful things to say and that the e-book is a very good resource. It is FREE. So download it and save it for when you might need it!

I've mentioned several times before, that this grieving process over Lilly has been teaching me a lot about how to better support others going through this. I still have a lot to learn though, so I appreciate ideas from others.


  1. I loved the picture too :) It somehow made me smile and just had to share it....saw it on another mommies page. I'm so glad you found peace in the message. I'm not sure how we get from day to day sometimes...but knowing we have each other and other friends that we can lean on is such a Blessing. Thank you for sharing your special moment. <3 you

  2. daughter, not only is the sky more beautiful now, but it also gives us rainbows. you will soon have a special "rainbow" of you own...

  3. Lilly is such a beautiful girl. I'm so sorry she's not here. I'm glad my short ebook brought even a moment of peace, and send you lots of love.

  4. It sometimes takes someone else's viewpoint to make us see things differently. Love you all.