Over the past few years, I've been asked a couple times if Tabby and Hunter were OK with having Lilly as a sister. That didn't it seem "unfair" to them to have a sister "like that." One woman that was pregnant with a Trisomy 18 baby emailed me last year and said that she was being pressured to abort her baby because people were telling her that it would be unfair to her current children and would cause them many problems in life. (I have to wonder if any of those pressuring people had any evidence at all.)
My answer is "NO." Tabby and Hunter's lives were made BETTER by having Lilly as a sister. Their character was improved and they both learned compassion for special needs people. They learned that "different" is not "bad" - that God doesn't make mistakes. They both still miss Lilly and we all still talk about her with frequency. When a stranger asks one of them about how many siblings they have, both always include Lilly.
There were a few times during Lilly's life when Tabby and Hunter each experienced frustration that we couldn't do something or I couldn't help them at the particular instance they wanted help, because of Lilly. But neither resented her for it.
Our conclusion: having a special needs sibling is a BLESSING, not a burden.
Oh yes your children will be compassionate adults no doubt because of their sweet little Lily! By the way your pictures are not showing up, just thought I would let you know. I will jump over to see them in the video:)
ReplyDeleteOh thank you for letting me know about the pictures! My expansion drive where I stored them is not working so I tried copying and pasting them from a different place. I'll try saving them and reposting.
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