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The story of our precious little girl's 17 months of life with Trisomy 18 (July 4, 2010 - December 15, 2011) and of us, re-learning to live "after Lilly."
"I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made ...." Psalm 139:14

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Capture Your Grief - Days 12 - 17

Several days to catch up on! 

Day 12: Article.
Day 13: Book.

These two days are about any book or article that has really helped on my journey of grief.  To be honest - I have quite a collection of books on grief, all kindly given to me, that I have never been able to read.  At least not yet.  There's one in particular I pick up now and then, but it makes me cry and I just don't feel like crying through a book so I put it back on my shelf for later. 

There is one beautiful picture book that I love called Mommy Please Don't Cry: There Are No Tears in Heaven.  I blogged about it here

Day 14: Family.
What does your family look like now?

  
Frank, me, Tabby, Hunter, and Solomon.  And Lilly.  I tell people that I have 3 children at home and one in heaven.  I get very upset if anyone in my family leaves Lilly out in telling how many people we have in our family.

Day 15: Wave Of Light.
October 15 was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Light a candle at 7pm to help create a continuous wave of light around the world for 24 hours.


Day 16: Seasons.
Share what certain seasons or holidays mean to you now.

Lilly at the pumpkin patch - October 2011
We feel so blessed to have had Lilly with us for 17 months.  That meant she got to celebrate every holiday with us, some more than twice.  I already blogged about the significance of the 4th of July and Christmas to me for Day 11 - emotional triggers  (Click here to read it.)  so I won't repeat it here.  But I do think of Lilly and things we did with her all year round.  

Day 17: Time.
How long has it been since your child died?


I didn't realize, until I posted this picture, that it was blurry.  But it really is better that way because time seem all blurry - all jumbled up - since Lilly died.  She died exactly 673 days ago from today.  It seems like FOREVER ago.  And yet it hasn't even been two whole years.  It is very confusing.

3 comments:

  1. Love that photo of Lily at the pumpkin patch, so sweet!

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  2. I do understand the blurry feeling. My whole 2011 year is blurry.

    I do want to mention that I don't mean to ignore Lilly or Wendi. But when someone casually asks me about how many siblings I have I have found that they are usually at a loss and uncomfortable if I mention that I have a sister who is deceased. It all just depends on who I am talking to and how well I know them and if I think they REALLY want to know or if its idle conversation and they really couldn't care less. It is not only easier on them, but also easier on me.
    Hugs. I love you.

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  3. I do understand! There have been a couple of times where I didn't bother either. But I am not as nice as you - I usually don't care if it makes the other person uncomfortable. :P But that makes ME feel better. Just like you not saying anything at times makes it easier on YOU. Even though this whole journey is a common one (grief) - we all have our own ways of handling it! And that is OK.

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