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The story of our precious little girl's 17 months of life with Trisomy 18 (July 4, 2010 - December 15, 2011) and of us, re-learning to live "after Lilly."
"I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made ...." Psalm 139:14

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Capture Your Grief - Days 28 - 31

Finally time to wrap up this series!

Day 28: Special Place.
Such as your child's place of rest.

Lilly is buried in Washington, N.C., a couple hours away from where we live.  She is buried next to my husband's youngest sister, who died at 15.  She is buried across from my husband's father, whom Lilly was blessed to see a bunch of times, including on her 1st birthday.  I have a little cherub statute on her grave, and an angel with chimes by it.  Plus we always keep something "Lilly colored" there.  Currently a red-white-and-blue wreath and pinwheel.  (I guess with the colors, unless someone was to read her gravestone, they might think her grave belonged to a soldier!)  I like checking up on her grave every time we have the opportunity.  Her burial there is playing in my mind now - it all seems so strange.  So unreal.  In December, we will take her red, white, and blue Christmas tree to her grave.

Day 29: Healing.
What has had the most healing impact on your life through this journey of grief?

Solomon.  My rainbow baby.  He filled my empty arms and turn my sorrow into joy.

Day 30: Growth.
Do you believe you have grown or are growing as a person since the loss of your precious baby?  Do you believe your baby had a higher purpose?

Absolutely and I am still growing.  I see so many people and situations completely differently.  I am more compassionate and have a special place in my heart for special needs children and adults. 
Did my baby have a higher purpose?  What kind of question is that?!  She radiated God's love and brought others - even strangers - closer to Him.

Day 31: Sunset.
To close out this project and month - photograph the sunset where you live.

This project began with a photo of the sunrise and now it ends with a sunset.  Unfortunately there was not much of a sunset this evening.  The sky was too cloudy.  Just like my thoughts and memories are at times.  But, I thank God that He has allowed the sun to shine through into my days more and more often.


  1. What a beautiful and creative way to walk through this valley. And that you would share it with others, that is so generous. Lilly must be so proud of you and the Lord is pleased as well. Bless you, friend.

    1. Thank you for you continued encouragement Cindy. It means so much!